On the Watch for Child Abuse

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Lee Roberts and Donna Kshir of Advocates United for Humanity. 

Wednesday started out to be one of the most emotional days of my life. My grandson entered Kindergarten and the thought of him being out of my care for the first time scared me to death. I kept thinking about his safety. I’m the type of parent that doesn’t allow my children to really go with anyone. I have a small circle of family I fully trust, but anyone who knows me knows I question everything and everyone.

If the day wasn’t already full of emotions, I received several phone calls, emails and private messages concerning rumors of a couple being investigated for child pornography. My first instinct was anger. How dare they prey on innocent children? My best friend Lee Roberts and I run a non-profit organization, Advocates United for Humanity. We do everything in our power to stop these horrific events from occurring and now rumor has that it’s happening in the area.

I have been advocating, writing educational books and testifying before lawmakers for the rights of children for the last 10 years. The things I have seen and heard are more horrible than any award winning screen writer could ever bring to the big screen. These monsters did not come from the swamp or from outer-space and they don’t attack teenagers on a camping trip. These monsters live next door and attack the most innocent among us…our children.

Regardless of anyone’s opinions or personal beliefs, abusers are usually well-known and liked by both you and your child. Abusers can be a parent, relative, family friend, teacher, coach or anyone. They can be a man or woman, married or single. They can hold any religious belief, and have any sexual preference. These abusers seem as normal as you and I on the outside but sick and twisted on the inside.

I wish people would understand anyone CAN be an abuser. Education or intelligence doesn’t prevent them from abusing, molesting or sexually trafficking your child. Abusers live and work among us; as a stable, employed, and respected member of the community… They become our friends and co-workers, and we quickly convince ourselves we know them, but the harsh reality is we don’t. This world is full of sick and truly evil people.

Abusers easily convince your child they are responsible for their wrongful behavior. They may threaten your child with physical violence against them, you, a pet, or loved one. They are good at manipulating and controlling children through fear. Control makes an abuser feel powerful. How could anyone feel powerful over a small, scared, defenseless child? Only a coward could…

Just because someone has a good reputation, a good job, nice house, fancy car, wealth or are a pillar of the community — they CAN still be an abuser. It’s not the weirdo on the corner you have to fear. Some of the biggest abusers are the ones you know, respect and trust the most. Be careful who you trust your child with. When someone tries to get close or takes a special interest in your child ask yourself why.

I can definitely say my career path has shaped the way I parent. I question everything and everyone. Regardless. I learned it’s important to look for signs of abuse, grooming behavior, strange interactions with other children and adults or my child’s behavior and to always ask questions. The best gift you can give your child is open communication and knowledge. The knowledge to speak out and protect themselves from these monsters. These abusers are pros at being deceptive. I know it really sucks that we have to teach our children that there are people out there that want to hurt them, but we do. I’d rather be vigilant than a vigilante after the fact.   – Donna Kshir

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Renovo is a small town nestled in the endless mountains of north-central Pennsylvania, known as the heart. Renovo native Donna Kshir has spent the last few years speaking and recording information she found; beginning a journey back to the past through storytelling. Through a series of short stories Donna has the ability to share the many, many, things she has learned about the Renovo area that she was unaware of before, found some new, interesting and amusing facts, and along the way made a few new friendships that will last a lifetime.

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Remembering Kelley

Sometimes God brings special people into our lives. We may never understand what, why, when or how, but it is meant to be. He and His will knows just how much this person will help, encourage and inspire one’s life. The time spent with Kelley Jo may have been short, but she has touched each and every member of the small community of Renovo with her big heart, kindness, laughter and contagious smile.

The books consists of a collection of raw and unedited poems, letters, memories and short stories that were written by family, friends, loved ones and colleagues of Kelley Jo Snyder. Kelley Jo’s loss devastated the very heart of this small country town nestled in the endless mountains of north-central Pennsylvania. She may be gone, but never forgotten.

Northern Books encourages you to share in the memories of a wife, mother, sister, daughter and aunt taken too soon. You may laugh, cry or even smile, but you will know just why Kelley meant so much to her community.

The remembrance book was complied by award winning – bestselling authors Donna M. Kshir and Laurie Ann Smith-Tornerup, new writer Lee Roberts and Kelley Jo’s best friend Tosha Packer. The remembrance book is available in three versions; full color interior, full black and white interior and eBook formats. Paperback and eBook formats currently available exclusively at Northern Books, and coming soon to Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, and other fine online bookstores.

Proceeds from sales are going into a trust for Kelley’s three children; Ty, Ethan and Eden Jade.

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